Choosing a Career Path
I think I’ll share this with you when you’re a teenager…but as I’m writing this post, you’re still in my belly and you’re a tiny 17 weeks old. I’m writing these posts so that I remember things I wanna share with you but also so that I don’t forget who I was and the kind of mom I want to be as you grow.
Even though you may feel like you know everything by now, one of the most important lessons you’ll have to learn is that you don’t. You never know enough. There are always more experiences to be had, more life lessons to experience, more things to learn. It’s human nature to feel like you know better then the person next to you, even if that person is me. I’ve been there too. But the sooner you realize that you can learn so much more and be so ahead of the curve just by listening to others (and I don’t mean me) the better off you’ll be.
In my mom’s time, when she was a kid, there were certain conventions that everyone in society had to adapt to, with very little flexibility. There wasn’t a lot of choice as to the destinies one could choose. If she had said she wanted to be an artist for example, her parents would have said no, you’re going to school. She chose to get married instead but that’s a different story. It was life as expected, without a lot of surprises.
In my life time things were already very different. I could do whatever wanted (sometimes), pursue any career (kind of), have a relationship with whoever I wanted (well, almost), dress how I wanted (most of the time). I didn’t have a lot of freedom as to where I could go, but self expression was my thing and that was OK at home… at least it didn’t get me grounded.
But I was raised by my mom and dad, with their mentality, and as much as they meant well and wanted to protected me it affected me in a way that they probably don’t even know to this day but that I wanted to share with you so that you hopefully learn from my experience.
As much as I wanted to be free, adventurous and do crazy unexpected things, I battled with what was expected of me. I knew I was supposed to go to college, get married a virgin (yep, in my family that was a thing. And let me just be clear that unless that’s something you really want, I don’t expect that from you at all, whether you’re a boy or a girl), follow a career, work 9-5, raise kids, never cheat, never lie etc. No one in my family had ever just left on a trip when they were young. That’s something you did when you were old and had your life figured out already.
I always listened to people’s advice and a lot of times I didn’t follow my heart. All because I grew up afraid of making mistakes. I went to school and studied business, which made my parents very proud. I figured that was a safe choice if I was to follow this idea of life that had been imprinted in my brain. But I think if I had followed my heart and done something with design, which was something I loved since I was 5 years old, I would have been more successful at it. I suck at (real life) business to be honest with you even though I was an A student all the way through. I think I always chose the safe route. I chose the predictable out of pure fear of the unknown.
My mission is to make sure you won’t get any pressure from me when you choose your path. It’s also my job to make sure you have a good perspective of the situation before making such decision and that you understand the consequences you might have to live with as well. Do not mistake that with me sharing my opinion. Remember I’ve known you way before you’ve known yourself and if I can share what I know and if you’re willing to listen, you’ll benefit a lot from it. But ultimately I want you to follow your heart in every decision you make and I promise to respect and support you in your decisions.
As long as you follow your heart, your true passion, I’m sure you’ll find happiness. And that’s all I want for you.
My advice to you today is listen to your heart. Trust your instincts. Follow your dreams. Don’t let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do.Life is precious but it doesn’t have to be as serious as people make it sound.
I love you and I wish you all the happiness in the world!